Prearranging ensures that your family and funeral director know exactly what kind of funeral you want. Families tend to take comfort at the time of death, simply from knowing their loved one's funeral reflects his or her wishes.
When making funeral arrangements, remember to take these important needs into consideration.
Benefits Of Planning Ahead
Prearrangement may or may not involve prepaying. Prepaying for a funeral offers you the advantage of paying for your funeral when you can afford it, thus relieving your family of a financial burden later. There are generally three basic ways to prepay for a funeral. You can enter into a trust fund agreement, depositing a specific amount of money in one lump sum or installments. The fund, managed by a trustee such as a licensed funeral director, is used to pay for funeral services and merchandise. Or, you can purchase a specially designed insurance policy that provides benefits equal to your funeral expenses. A third option is a savings or certificate of deposit account earmarked for funeral expenses in a bank that would be payable on death to the funeral home.
There are other options as well, and state laws covering these financial arrangements vary. Ask your funeral director what options are available, and be sure you have a clear understanding of the different types of prefunding vehicles.
Questions to Ask About Pre-Funding
An information form to aid you in planning your funeral is provided below. Simply taking the time to print it out, complete the form and discuss your wishes with your family is one way to prearrange your funeral.
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Final Disposition Options
Perhaps no other moment in the funeral process is as powerful as the final disposition. For survivors, this is a strong symbolic moment, a confirmation that they must let go of the person who died and look ahead to a changed life.
For this reason, it is important families choose the kind of final disposition most meaningful to them and most appropriate for the deceased.
Earth burial, otherwise known as interment, is the most common form of disposition in the United States. Americans seem to prefer the idea of a final resting place and a gravesite where they can go to remember the person who died.
Cemeteries may be owned by municipalities, churches, religious groups or other private organizations. Veterans may be eligible for burial in state or nationally owned government cemeteries. Cemeteries vary in the type of outer receptacle they require; some place restrictions on markers or monuments. Your funeral director can answer your questions about local cemeteries.
Like burial, entombment offers a fixed, final resting place. When a body is entombed, the casket is placed in a mausoleum, an above-ground structure usually made of marble or stone. Mausoleums vary greatly in size and design and are often found on cemetery grounds. Some are large enough for entire families, with a separate room for each person's casket.
Cremation is often accompanied by the rites and ceremonies of funeralization, including embalming and visitation. Final disposition options include earth burial, entombment and scattering. Some families keep cremated remains in an urn or other appropriate container.
Direct disposition is the immediate cremation and disposition of the body with no attendant rites or ceremonies.
No matter how the body is committed, most families choose some form of marker or monument to memorialize the deceased. Markers vary from large granite or marble memorials to small bronze plaques placed over a grave. Many families who choose cremation and scatter the remains purchase space in a cemetery for an inscribed memorial plaque.
Selecting Services and Merchandise
Your funeral director will give you a general price list that includes a fee all consumers pay for the basic services of the funeral directors and staff and itemized prices for additional services and merchandise.
The basic services fee covers the overhead costs of running the funeral home, such as personnel, benefits and other routine business expenses. It also covers basic services of staff, such as responding to the initial request for service, the arrangement conference and the coordination of activities with the cemetery and other service providers.
Itemized services and merchandise your funeral directors offers will likely include embalming, other preparation of the body such as hairdressing, transfer of remains, caskets, urns and garments. Costs such as cemetery and crematory charges, newspaper notices, grave markers and honoraria may or may not beprovided by the funeral home.
If you are in need of services or merchandise not included on the list, do not hesitate to ask. Funeral directors routinely find ways to meet the unique needs of each family they serve and cannot possibly include all services provided on a single price list.
The total cost of a funeral varies considerably, depending on geographic location, size of the funeral home, services provided and arrangements selected. It is the responsibility of your funeral director to review with you the cost of all services and merchandise selected, even though it may be a difficult time for you to do so.
The value of services offered and received is as important as the price paid. Carefully examine the quality of what is offered in terms of personal services, facilities and merchandise so you will be absolutely certain your wants and needs are met in a manner you expect.
A Final Note
During the first few days after a death, you are surrounded by family and friends. You are busy planning the funeral and may not have time to think about yourself until later when you are alone with your grief. After you've planned the funeral, take care of yourself.
You can expect to experience a wide range of emotions. Grieving is hard work, and you may feel tired and lethargic without understanding why. Lighten your schedule if you can, eat healthy foods and exercise to renew your energy. Take time to be alone with your thoughts, but also spend time talking to close friends about your loss. You need to express your emotions.
Ask your funeral director about aftercare services available to support your needs during this time.
You can prearrange your funeral by completing this form and discussing your wishes with your family and funeral director. If you find yourself hesitant to do so, even with the best of intentions, you are not alone. We all know intellectually that death is inevitable, but planning for and discussing it can be surprisingly difficult.
Take your time. Think carefully about what will be best for you and your family, and discuss why you want certain arrangements. By doing so now, you are assuring piece of mind for you and your family now and at the time of need. Click Here to view our on-line pre-planning form.
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